Comments on: Schadenfreude http://jenniesmash.com/2006/05/14/schadenfreude/ Not just another WordPress.com weblog Thu, 22 Jul 2010 02:05:24 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.com/ By: Eric http://jenniesmash.com/2006/05/14/schadenfreude/#comment-2058 Eric Tue, 16 May 2006 13:05:00 +0000 http://jenniesmash.wordpress.com/2006/05/14/schadenfreude/#comment-2058 I suggest J-Date, only because I want to see if you can trick them into believing you're Jewish. I suggest J-Date, only because I want to see if you can trick them into believing you’re Jewish.

]]> By: SaraDru http://jenniesmash.com/2006/05/14/schadenfreude/#comment-2056 SaraDru Mon, 15 May 2006 18:44:00 +0000 http://jenniesmash.wordpress.com/2006/05/14/schadenfreude/#comment-2056 I'm right there with you! I just went to a wedding this weekend and I have one to go to every month all summer! They're ALL out of town so there goes any chance of getting away for a vacation this year! I’m right there with you! I just went to a wedding this weekend and I have one to go to every month all summer! They’re ALL out of town so there goes any chance of getting away for a vacation this year!

]]> By: jayman http://jenniesmash.com/2006/05/14/schadenfreude/#comment-2053 jayman Mon, 15 May 2006 09:52:00 +0000 http://jenniesmash.wordpress.com/2006/05/14/schadenfreude/#comment-2053 Yeah, I wasn't trying to imply that you wouldn't stick with the right person, because the first thing is definately being lucky enough to find that someone who's <i>worth</i> fighting for.<br /><br />And I certainly didn't mean to come off as all high and mighty about it. I just didn't want you to subscribe to the notion that once you find the right person everything else is just rainbows and puppy dogs. It may solve some "problems" in your life, but it easily creates just as many.<br /><br />Frankly, I don't know you well enough to infer anything about you <i>or</i> your dating habits. But I do know that no one can think any less of you because you aren't in a "serious" relationship. Don't forget that half of all marriages today are going to end in divorce, and the younger you are when you get married the more likely you are to get divorced. Just keep in mind, a few years from now when you're drinking with the same friends, but on different nights because they're no longer on speaking terms, that "I told you so" is a tacky thing to say unless you're buying the drinks.<br /><br />As for match, I blame my research department. Had I taken two seconds to google "match.com complaints" I'd have had a hundred and seventy-nine thousand reasons to change my endorsement. You watch the TV ads and they make it sound like the bestest thing for dating since automakers took out the stick shift. Yeah, I wasn’t trying to imply that you wouldn’t stick with the right person, because the first thing is definately being lucky enough to find that someone who’s worth fighting for.

And I certainly didn’t mean to come off as all high and mighty about it. I just didn’t want you to subscribe to the notion that once you find the right person everything else is just rainbows and puppy dogs. It may solve some “problems” in your life, but it easily creates just as many.

Frankly, I don’t know you well enough to infer anything about you or your dating habits. But I do know that no one can think any less of you because you aren’t in a “serious” relationship. Don’t forget that half of all marriages today are going to end in divorce, and the younger you are when you get married the more likely you are to get divorced. Just keep in mind, a few years from now when you’re drinking with the same friends, but on different nights because they’re no longer on speaking terms, that “I told you so” is a tacky thing to say unless you’re buying the drinks.

As for match, I blame my research department. Had I taken two seconds to google “match.com complaints” I’d have had a hundred and seventy-nine thousand reasons to change my endorsement. You watch the TV ads and they make it sound like the bestest thing for dating since automakers took out the stick shift.

]]> By: Jennie SMASH! http://jenniesmash.com/2006/05/14/schadenfreude/#comment-2052 Jennie SMASH! Mon, 15 May 2006 02:03:00 +0000 http://jenniesmash.wordpress.com/2006/05/14/schadenfreude/#comment-2052 I've tried Match, as well as about four different other online dating services. I've also tried getting fixed up by my friends, meeting friends of friends, meeting guys at bars or events and just giving up. None of these have resulted in my winding up in any kind of a workable relationship.<br /><br />I'd really encourage those of you who have been lucky enough to find mates to be a bit easier on those of us who haven't. It's not lack of will, or willingness to work. It's just luck. I’ve tried Match, as well as about four different other online dating services. I’ve also tried getting fixed up by my friends, meeting friends of friends, meeting guys at bars or events and just giving up. None of these have resulted in my winding up in any kind of a workable relationship.

I’d really encourage those of you who have been lucky enough to find mates to be a bit easier on those of us who haven’t. It’s not lack of will, or willingness to work. It’s just luck.

]]> By: jayman http://jenniesmash.com/2006/05/14/schadenfreude/#comment-2051 jayman Mon, 15 May 2006 01:57:00 +0000 http://jenniesmash.wordpress.com/2006/05/14/schadenfreude/#comment-2051 There's no such thing as a "perfect" relationship. They take work. Even the best of them require compromise and dedication. <br /><br />But the only difference between a relationship that lasts and one that doesn't is that you fight for it. When you just want to walk away, one of you has to say no.<br /><br />Living alone can be ok, though. No one drinks the last of the milk and puts the carton back. No one's in the bathroom when you wake up. No one bitches if you come home drunk and loud at all hours.<br /><br />If you really want to find someone there's always match.com. There’s no such thing as a “perfect” relationship. They take work. Even the best of them require compromise and dedication.

But the only difference between a relationship that lasts and one that doesn’t is that you fight for it. When you just want to walk away, one of you has to say no.

Living alone can be ok, though. No one drinks the last of the milk and puts the carton back. No one’s in the bathroom when you wake up. No one bitches if you come home drunk and loud at all hours.

If you really want to find someone there’s always match.com.

]]> By: I.Mc http://jenniesmash.com/2006/05/14/schadenfreude/#comment-2050 I.Mc Mon, 15 May 2006 01:32:00 +0000 http://jenniesmash.wordpress.com/2006/05/14/schadenfreude/#comment-2050 I'm getting married I’m getting married

]]> By: Jennie SMASH! http://jenniesmash.com/2006/05/14/schadenfreude/#comment-2049 Jennie SMASH! Mon, 15 May 2006 00:19:00 +0000 http://jenniesmash.wordpress.com/2006/05/14/schadenfreude/#comment-2049 I think that's a lovely idea, but there's really no guarantee that the right person will come along at all. I know lots of people, some even older than me -- gasp! -- who never met the One at all.<br /><br />Better advice would be to figure out how to be happy without all that. Not that that's an easy thing either. I think that’s a lovely idea, but there’s really no guarantee that the right person will come along at all. I know lots of people, some even older than me — gasp! — who never met the One at all.

Better advice would be to figure out how to be happy without all that. Not that that’s an easy thing either.

]]> By: Frank http://jenniesmash.com/2006/05/14/schadenfreude/#comment-2048 Frank Sun, 14 May 2006 21:33:00 +0000 http://jenniesmash.wordpress.com/2006/05/14/schadenfreude/#comment-2048 ... who is a poor keyer.<br /><br />" . . . this will happen . . . " … who is a poor keyer.

” . . . this will happen . . . “

]]> By: Frank http://jenniesmash.com/2006/05/14/schadenfreude/#comment-2047 Frank Sun, 14 May 2006 21:31:00 +0000 http://jenniesmash.wordpress.com/2006/05/14/schadenfreude/#comment-2047 When the right person comes along<br />you will know it. Until then, live vicariously and enjoy it.<br /><br />I know this while happen because I am an Irish romantic. When the right person comes along
you will know it. Until then, live vicariously and enjoy it.

I know this while happen because I am an Irish romantic.

]]> By: MiamiPRMama http://jenniesmash.com/2006/05/14/schadenfreude/#comment-2046 MiamiPRMama Sun, 14 May 2006 14:16:00 +0000 http://jenniesmash.wordpress.com/2006/05/14/schadenfreude/#comment-2046 My Dear JennieSmash, <br /><br />I am here to reassure you that all of your friends walking around married or engaged and telling you how wonderful their life is and how stable they are, ARE LYING TO YOU!!!!! I never needed therapy until AFTER I got married. Really, you are living in the best of the two worlds. My Dear JennieSmash,

I am here to reassure you that all of your friends walking around married or engaged and telling you how wonderful their life is and how stable they are, ARE LYING TO YOU!!!!! I never needed therapy until AFTER I got married. Really, you are living in the best of the two worlds.

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